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Ménage à trois relationships: how realistic are they?
by Kelly Jamieson
I’ve been blogging a lot lately about ménage à trois relationships because of my most recent release One Wicked Night. The other day I happened to be watching the Anderson Cooper show and he had a real live polyamorous couple on as guests – a woman who lives with two men. They have a child together and both men act as fathers to the child.
One of the things I’ve thought about is whether the “happy ever after for all three” ending in a ménage story is realistic. From the woman’s point of view, I can see the advantages of having two men around. And not just for sex, although there are definite advantages there
So, much as I enjoy writing ménage stories that end in a committed threesome, I suspect it’s not so realistic. But here on Anderson was a real life couple living that way.
I didn’t see the beginning of the show so I didn’t realize the details of their relationship, but as they talked and audience members spoke up about their disapproval of the arrangement, I found myself defending the threesome in my mind. Even my daughter (a young adult), who was watching with me, disapproved. She kept saying “that is so messed up”. In retrospect, I’m sorry I didn’t say anything. Not that I needed to defend that type of relationship, but I could have at least pointed out to her that people make different choices in their lives and we need to be tolerant and respectful of those choices. Their decision to live as a committed threesome doesn’t hurt anyone else. (Some people did express concerns about the impact on their child). Many people didn’t believe that you could have the same level of love, intimacy and commitment to two people as you could to just one. Even a psychologist spoke up about how she sees this as loving “wider” rather than “deeper”. The threesome disagreed with that and expressed their feelings quite eloquently.
I guess I felt a little defensive because I’ve written stories like that and even though I think it’s not super realistic, I want to believe in the fantasy. I feel like my characters are real people and I want to believe in that HEA for all three of them, to believe that they will make it together despite their unconventional relationship.
Because I’m interested in this, I found the clip of the Anderson show on line and watched the interview from the start. (Link here if you’re interested: http://shows.ctv.ca/Anderson.aspx#clip561652 ) It turns out that although this threesome lives together and they’re committed to each other, it is also an open relationship. One of the men has another girlfriend, who does not live with them. Now that put a different twist onto things. I know open relationships do exist, but when I’m writing (or reading) a romance, whether it’s between two people or three, I have to have my happy ending and commitment to each other at the end. I never envision my characters entering into an open relationship where they are free to date or have sex with other people. Because that’s not a romance.
Some of the ménage stories I’ve written don’t end with a committed threesome. Sometimes threesomes happen as a crazy, one time thing. Sometimes they happen and complicate an established relationship. Sometimes one person gets left out (but if they do, I’ve always written their own HEA story!). But the one thing you’ll always get from my books is commitment and a happily ever after ending, for at least two people…and sometimes three.
Here’s a little excerpt from One Wicked Night:
The boys are back in town…
Ten years ago, Kaelin Daume spent a steamy summer home from college secretly hanging out with town bad boy Tyler Wirth and his best friend Nick Kernsted. The connection was warm, complicated, and came to a crashing end when she walked in on her two forbidden friends with another woman. The shocking scene of sex and bondage has haunted her boring, oh-so-vanilla life ever since.
The fallout from that night tore Tyler’s life apart. He left Mapleglen, disowned and disgraced, to build a successful advertising career and a unique relationship with Nick. Nothing could bring him back except his sister’s wedding, and he plans to hightail it back to Chicago as soon as it’s over. At least one good thing hasn’t changed: Kaelin is as sweet as ever. Except she doesn’t seem too thrilled to hear it.
As tensions run high, Kaelin can’t resist the temptation to commit one crazy act of rebellion. Once the web of secrets, sins and lies starts to unravel, though, their lives will never be the same…
This book contains a nice girl who gets her naughty on with two hot men. M/M/F and M/M scenes may cause an increase in body temperature, pulse rate and respiration. Read with caution! For adult use only.
“We need to talk, buddy,” Tyler said. “This isn’t going to be easy.”
Nick held up a hand. “Hey. No worries. I could see you two worked things out, I guess. I’m glad.” He nodded.
“Yeah.” Tyler pulled Kaelin further into the room, tucked her into his arms in front of him. “I’m not sure if we’ve worked things out. Not everything. We talked. I apologized.”
Nick nodded slowly. “Good.”
“The thing is…” Tyler’s voice cracked. He lifted a hand to rub his face and Kaelin peeked over her shoulder at him. Her heart full and aching for both of them, she only wanted to make things right for them. Tension thickened around them, and Nick’s throat worked as he swallowed.
“I said, no worries.” Nick gave them a thin smile. “You don’t need to explain it to me, man.” His expression gentled. “I’ve always known how you felt about Kaelin. I’ve always known how she felt about you. If anything good came out of that screwed-up family wedding, it’s you two being together. I’m happy for you.”
Tyler gave a short laugh. “Yeah, you are so right about that.” He paused. “But…”
Nick turned away then, and moved to the old oak dresser in the corner. “So,” he said, his back toward them. “What’s gonna happen? Kaelin, you moving to Chicago?”
“We haven’t thought that far ahead.” With another glance at Tyler over her shoulder, she released herself from his arms and moved toward Nick. She touched his back. He didn’t turn, just bent his head. “Nick.” She rubbed up and down. “Oh, Nick.”
“Don’t fucking feel sorry for me,” he said in a low, tight voice, head still down. “I’m fine.”
“I know. I don’t feel sorry for you.” She spoke in a low voice too. “Nick. I know you love him. I think I-I love him too.” Her nerves stretched like rubber bands, she willed her shaky voice to be steady. “But I also care about you.”
He nodded stiffly. “Kaelin. You know I care about you too.”
Tyler moved up to them then, to stand behind Nick. He slid his arms around Nick and rested his head against Nick’s. Nick went very still, his fingers gripping the edge of the dresser, still looking down at it.
“What you said that day,” Tyler said. “When we were in Mapleglen and you said it was insulting to you that I thought Kaelin was too good for me, but you weren’t…I’ve been thinking about that.” Tyler paused. “You probably are too good for me. And I want you to know how much that means to me that you care about me. Nick. I’ve never told you this.” His voice came out thick. “I don’t want to lose you.”
“What are you saying?” Nick asked after a long moment of dense silence.
“He’s saying, we don’t want to lose you,” Kaelin said. She rested her hand on his taut forearm. “I’m confused, too, Nick. This is the weirdest thing that’s ever happened to me. I want two men. Me. The good girl. I don’t know what happened to me last weekend, but for some reason this just all feels like this is the way it should be. The three of us. “
Nick groaned and still didn’t move. Tyler’s hand rubbed over his chest. “Jesus,” Nick said. He turned his head and met Kaelin’s eyes. “Are you sure, Kaelin? A lot of people would think that’s really fucked up.”
“I know.” She smiled and held his gaze. “I’m sure. You know I’ve always cared about you. You were always a friend to me. Last weekend…well, it was more than just friends. Right?” She bit her lip as she awaited his answer.
“You know it was, honey.” He released his grip on the dresser and found her hand with his. His big warm fingers closed around hers. “You know it was.”
He turned in Tyler’s arms to face his friend. “Tyler. Buddy. What the fuck?”
Tyler gave a choked laugh. “Yeah. What the fuck is right. I don’t know, man. You think I can explain any of this? All I know is what I want. I want you. And I want Kaelin. And I think…” He paused, glanced at Kaelin, wrapped one arm around her shoulders, the other around Nick’s, pulled their three heads close together. “I think we are so fucking lucky to have found her, probably the only woman in the world who’d get this.”