Hi all! Flirting in Traffic my Cerridwen press novel finally comes out next Thursday! So I’m giving away two free downloads of FLIRTING next Wednesday 3/4 to two commenters on my blog. The book will be for sale the following day, March 5, in e-book format: http://www.jasminejade.com/ps-6982-47-flirting-in-traffic.aspx
Flirting in Traffic features what most of us would call a ‘rebound relaltionship.’ You’ve probably heard it before: A rebound relationship will never work. The familiar wisdom preaches that “you’re just acting out all of your feelings in regard to a relationship failing–or possibly shoring up a wounded self esteem with another person.”
What do you think about love on the “rebound?”
As someone who regularly deals with people and emotional issues, I do believe there’s good reason for the standard wisdom. Caution is required when the heart is so vulnerable. However, I also believe that all is fair in the game of love and war. So much depends on the people involved, their maturity, and emotional readiness for an intimate relationship.
Sometimes–just like in Flirting in Traffic’s Esa’s and Finn’s case–the rebound relationship is the real one.
Natasha Holt reported in her article I’m a Boomerang Bride several instances of fated rebound relationships. Ms. Holt describes one story as follows. “Nia and her boyfriend Simon described their relationship as ‘comfortable’ but sadly, at just 23, the spark had gone, so when Nia contemplated their future together, she realised she needed more. Nia made the difficult decision to break up with Simon. Then, just three months after the split, she met Steve, 30. Within 18 months they were married and had a baby boy. Fast work.”
According to psychologist Professor Alex Gardner, boomerang marriages do have a genuine chance of success.
“As long as you’re willing to take the lessons you learnt from your past relationship into your next one, and be honest with yourself about what went wrong, you have a real chance of making it work,” says Professor Gardner. “People can know very quickly if someone is right for them. If it feels right, it probably is.”
What are your thoughts on the thrills and fears associated with rebound romances? After reading Flirting in Traffic I hope you’ll at least consider the possibilities.